Divorce is difficult for everyone, no matter how friendly the parties are. It is not only stressful from a legal and financial standpoint but also from an emotional standpoint. Most people focus on the legal process of divorce and forget to consider the possible emotional struggles that can arise during the divorce process.
Scientific studies have shown that divorce is one of the most challenging life changes a person can go through, along with the death of a spouse, the loss of a job, moving to a different town and other complex life events. Divorce may not seem like a big deal when all you want is to get through the process of divorce as quickly as possible and return to your pre-married life.
Grieving the loss of what was
However, divorce entails emotionally grieving the loss of what used to be a marriage, or one half of a couple or a family, to being on your own. All of this isn’t easy to process and manage, and it can all bring up complex emotions. Sometimes the feelings are so strong that people wonder if they are doing the right thing by divorcing their spouse. That is very common.
It is critical to know what to expect so you can be prepared. Some of the things you can do to be ready for the emotional toll that the divorce will take on you are:
1. Looking for support from a divorce support group
2. Speaking with a counselor or therapist
3. Asking your family and friends for what you need
4. Using self-help tools, like writing and journaling
It is critical to grieve the divorce while it is happening and not escape from the difficult emotions because that will only postpone the grieving for later, and it could impact your future relationships.
If you do not know a therapist or counselor who can help and want to find one, you can ask your attorney if they can recommend someone. Divorce is challenging for everyone who goes through it, but you do not have to do it alone.
